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FAT

In January 2011  I started to unravel about being told how to be less fat!!!  It only has become worse, probably because I was focused on it.  In January I picked up a magazine, read an article about dieting.  It did not tell me one thing I had not heard before.  Not one thing!!!  You know, exercise more, eat better, sleep more etc.  I am not against healthy ways of living it is just that there seems to be a war on about fat people and especially fat kids.  Since then I have read how where you live makes you fat, who you hang out with may make you fat, lack of sleep makes you fat, too much sleep makes you fat, it is endless.  There is also all this talk about food tax, healthier foods in machines in the work place, in schools and how are we going to make healthy foods cheaper?  Now please, give us a break, is it not cheaper to buy an orange than a chocolate bar?  What about the fact that fat foods just taste good, can we ever legislate that?  Again I am a supporter of a healthier lifestyle but I am just so mad about the constant attack on fat people.  I am also tired of being told what to do and especially what to eat, I know I am not alone.  For all the years we have heard about losing weight it must be alarming to” whomever those folks are” that we are getting fatter as a nation.  Something is not working!

I know that kids today lead a much more sedentary lifestyle but let me tell you about my childhood.  I was born hungry…really, my mom said I wanted to eat (drink) from day one.  I came from a very active family.  I did all the sports, ice skated for years and battled my weight.  We did not even have TV until I was 12 years old.  My brother grew up exactly the same way and he is tall and slim.  Did I eat too much?  I don’t really know, I started to diet at 16 and well we all know what that does over time.  Thanks to my parents I grew up with great self esteem, some might say inflated….

I say all this because in my opinion there is still so much we don’t know…no computers in my day to keep me captive indoors.  We still have stats that say we are likely to gain weight back we lost, we still spend billions of dollars on weight loss and we are still fat.

I have no idea what the answers are.  I am in a position to know thousands of fat women and over the years there have been a small number who have maintained large losses. Most have not. That includes me.  I do know many women who have chosen to be healthier and are still plus sizes, I know women who have given up and those who continue to try new things.

I am very interested in what women of size think about this issue.  Where do we go from here?  What are you doing?  I have so much more to say on this subject, it is endless in my world.  I will keep you posted.

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My Vancouver

I really wanted to rant about the Stanley Cup riots in Vancouver but what more is there to say?

I decided I will instead applaud all the people who went downtown to clean up and all those who now speak of moving forward.

In my opinion, pushing up against a problem rarely works.  Finding alternates like positive action does.  Perhaps we should remind ourselves that those who will be “outed” for their  behaviour will be found accountable and let’s trust the police will deal with it.  Parents of these offenders may or may not be good parents but in the end the blame lies with the offender.  I was concerned when I overheard someone talking about retaliation against the parents of one of these kids. I do hope that calmness prevails and I trust that there are enough decent people in our city hoping for the same thing.

I thank all my customers from out of town who emailed, called or used facebook to check if we were ok.  You are the best as always and I join your well wishes for businesses downtown who were harmed.  There is a call to action here in the city to support those affected by going in and buying something.  I will do that ( wow, shopping to help out, I can handle that!)

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Moving Forward: Part Two

Learn to say no, it is the best gift you could give yourself. “No, that’s not going to work for me” is a phrase one should maybe tattoo someplace. Too much, how about a beaded necklace or bracelet bearing this phrase?

This is not a new concept it is just difficult to master. Oprah talked about it for some time, it was difficult for her but rewarding. It is powerful to say no, it means you don’t do things you do not want to do. In the life of women of size it teaches you to stand up for yourself. More often than not you do not  owe others an explanation.  A good strategy, if you are having difficulty saying no,  say “let me think about it and get back to you.”  Even if you say yes after thinking it through you may still have room to go back and say, “on further reflection….”

My friend is 68 and gets asked to babysit her grandchildren often. It is way too much for her under certain situations. She just says ok to it all. What is wrong with saying no to the things that don’t work for you? What is the worst that can happen? Chances are her daughter already knows it is too much and likely feels a bit guilty. It is human nature to take advantage of a situation like this but she would probably be open to changing things.

Maybe one should ask oneself how different life would feel by just saying “no” when it works for you!

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The Sugar Plump Fairy

I receive many questions about the reigning fairy that can be seen (hard to miss) boldly holding up the wall in our back room. She was a little more on the bright side when she was in our window at holiday time. She dawned white twinkle lights in her purple tu tu.
Sugar Plump Fairy In Tu Tu at Suzanne Bell's Fashions
The real truth is we could not part with her. She always reminds us to have fun and be the best we can be. We have taken to speaking to her which may be a little worrisome but we do it anyway. She seems wise.

I have spent many years learning to like myself as I am. Seeing her reminds me to never forget that. My words of wisdom if you choose to use them are ” allow yourself a sense of well-being, you deserve it and it feels great”

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