Acknowledgement

This year I am heading into my 30th year in business and I must say it has been amazing.  I say this often, I love my business because I have  all of you who I truly care about.  You have not only kept me in business but you are interesting, funny, sad, happy and a constant source of inspiration.  Every year I pick a focus word to help me improve. This last year I chose “acknowledgement” as my project.  Let me acknowledge how I am grateful everyday for you.  Thank you so much…

acknowledgementThis last year has been challenging, not only for me but for many of you.  You have shared some very heartfelt stories.  It has  been tough financial times and it seems like many things have surfaced for all of us to face.. Maybe this is a good time for the 2012 prayer to be “Dear God, my prayer this year is for a fat bank account and a thin body, please don’t mix these up like you did last year! Amen. ” Well, on that note I am going to share mostly good things that came my way ( often via you) .

My first thought goes to a story I heard recently.  One of my customers was with her grand daughter on a cold day waiting with a group of her pre-school chums.  They were cold, so grandma decided to teach them the Hokey Pokey.  “Put your right foot in…..” A circle of tiny girls in pink and very energetic boys  did wild jumps when they “turned themselves about”.  They all screamed with glee and had to have elbows, hands and bare legs touched to prove how warm they now were.  That vision has stayed with me and makes me smile,but not more than my friends grand daughter who on an “adventure” to Starbucks with her classmates stated that she had a hot chocolate and the “allergics” had juice.

As I mentioned, every year I pick a project for self-improvement. For me that meant taking the time to let people know how great they were, customer service, personal issues, just anything I really liked about their behaviour.  The most surprising thing was just how truly moved most of these folks were.  I just told them what a gift they had for “whatever”. To one woman I mentioned how kind she was when  I  observed her help a senior.  I said to her she had an impressive way of handling the situation.  She told me no one had ever said that to her before.  I intend to write about this in detail at some point as I had so many encounters and what it taught me was  how little it takes to make a huge impact.  This really had very little to do with me, I just observed and acknowledged the deed.  It was so obvious how touched most recipients were.  I mistakenly thought this was just us everyday people who tend to get ignored but no… I told a doctor ( I actually said to her ” I need you to listen to me for a moment”) ,that alone got her attention.  I praised her for being a healer, having a  superior bedside manner, that she showed no judgement about the fat issue.  She stopped in her tracks, got very quiet and said no one had ever said anything like that to her and she would never forget it.

This thing I do every year came about because I refused to make New Year’s Resolutions about diets.  I choose words instead and then try to live up to them.  I don’t always do a splendid job but it does help me be mindful.  I recommend it as a project if you choose to do one.  One cannot actually fail at this, just going there will change you.  One year I chose kindness, I am not always kind but I always think about it and am more kind than I was before I took it on.  Stephanie ( my business partner) suggested I should try humility this year..ha!!!

I am open to suggestions for my 2012 word project and I do love all your quotes and items of interest you send to me.  Here are just a few of that came my way, hope you enjoy them.

For 2011 my favorite quote is “Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don’t want” Jerry and Esther Hicks.   My favorite Tweet is from Jenny Ellison who wrote “Eating disorders are up among children in the USA. Congratulation anti-obesity crusades for teaching kids that healthy equals skinny”.  My favorite response when a woman of size was asked  “What are you hungry for?” her answer: Powerful life changing results!!!

As one of my long time customers said, maybe the Hokey Pokey IS what it is all about!

Merry Christmas

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FAT

In January 2011  I started to unravel about being told how to be less fat!!!  It only has become worse, probably because I was focused on it.  In January I picked up a magazine, read an article about dieting.  It did not tell me one thing I had not heard before.  Not one thing!!!  You know, exercise more, eat better, sleep more etc.  I am not against healthy ways of living it is just that there seems to be a war on about fat people and especially fat kids.  Since then I have read how where you live makes you fat, who you hang out with may make you fat, lack of sleep makes you fat, too much sleep makes you fat, it is endless.  There is also all this talk about food tax, healthier foods in machines in the work place, in schools and how are we going to make healthy foods cheaper?  Now please, give us a break, is it not cheaper to buy an orange than a chocolate bar?  What about the fact that fat foods just taste good, can we ever legislate that?  Again I am a supporter of a healthier lifestyle but I am just so mad about the constant attack on fat people.  I am also tired of being told what to do and especially what to eat, I know I am not alone.  For all the years we have heard about losing weight it must be alarming to” whomever those folks are” that we are getting fatter as a nation.  Something is not working!

I know that kids today lead a much more sedentary lifestyle but let me tell you about my childhood.  I was born hungry…really, my mom said I wanted to eat (drink) from day one.  I came from a very active family.  I did all the sports, ice skated for years and battled my weight.  We did not even have TV until I was 12 years old.  My brother grew up exactly the same way and he is tall and slim.  Did I eat too much?  I don’t really know, I started to diet at 16 and well we all know what that does over time.  Thanks to my parents I grew up with great self esteem, some might say inflated….

I say all this because in my opinion there is still so much we don’t know…no computers in my day to keep me captive indoors.  We still have stats that say we are likely to gain weight back we lost, we still spend billions of dollars on weight loss and we are still fat.

I have no idea what the answers are.  I am in a position to know thousands of fat women and over the years there have been a small number who have maintained large losses. Most have not. That includes me.  I do know many women who have chosen to be healthier and are still plus sizes, I know women who have given up and those who continue to try new things.

I am very interested in what women of size think about this issue.  Where do we go from here?  What are you doing?  I have so much more to say on this subject, it is endless in my world.  I will keep you posted.

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My Vancouver

I really wanted to rant about the Stanley Cup riots in Vancouver but what more is there to say?

I decided I will instead applaud all the people who went downtown to clean up and all those who now speak of moving forward.

In my opinion, pushing up against a problem rarely works.  Finding alternates like positive action does.  Perhaps we should remind ourselves that those who will be “outed” for their  behaviour will be found accountable and let’s trust the police will deal with it.  Parents of these offenders may or may not be good parents but in the end the blame lies with the offender.  I was concerned when I overheard someone talking about retaliation against the parents of one of these kids. I do hope that calmness prevails and I trust that there are enough decent people in our city hoping for the same thing.

I thank all my customers from out of town who emailed, called or used facebook to check if we were ok.  You are the best as always and I join your well wishes for businesses downtown who were harmed.  There is a call to action here in the city to support those affected by going in and buying something.  I will do that ( wow, shopping to help out, I can handle that!)

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Words To Live By…

I wanted to share this with you.

It was sent to me by one of my customers and it certainly worth reading.

I do not know the original source of this, so if anyone knows, it would be interesting to have the information.

“There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout:

‘This is me damn it!

I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love!

I am a whole complex package,

Take me…or leave me.

Accept me- or walk away !

Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don’t fit your idea of who I should be

and don’t try to change me to fit your mold.

If I need to change, I alone will make that decision.’

When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad –

you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.”

Stacey Charter

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